Someone searched for ‘RELUCTANT NARCISSIST DANIEL’ and got my blog. I had to smile at that for a couple of reasons. One, I’m vain enough to check my blog stats to find out who’s connecting to this blog. Second, that I’m actually tagged as Daniel the reluctant narcissist. All that is missing is the ‘Ivan’ part.
I have always been a bit unsure about the title of this blog, but it fits me.
I want to learn to shift the rotation of the universe away from me to where it belongs.
But it’s hard.
RECOVERING NARCISSIST 
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You know- i have no idea how I came across this blog. Im not a blogger or a techie, but I do like what you say, or at least what you say it about. I guess I imagine that we have similar world views…
Except when you refer to your title. I think of ‘reluctant’ as meaning not eager, or unwilling. So I always imagined you were commenting on how the world “forces” people, or at least implores them, to be narcissistic. But you’ve mentioned a couple times about being a recovering narcissist- and here- about the universe revolving around you. Im certainly not trying to criticize- I like what you have to say. Im just wondering: Where did this identification with (or focus on) narcissism come from in the first place?
Thanks for the comment.
To be candid, I believe people are by nature closet narcissists. We are all consumed with ME. It just so happens I am willing to stand in front of others and say, “Hi, my name is Daniel. I’m a Narcissist. -and I want to learn how not to be.”
Recently, I have begun to think that ‘Recovering Narcissist’ better reflects me. However, I can be so darned consumed with me that ‘recovering’ doesn’t seem to fit all the time (i.e. I have a blog about me not wanting life to be about me). It is a pursuit more than an ongoing reality. Thus I have kept the word “reluctant” in the title. For now.
This blog is nothing more than an exercise in opposing and resisting (which is the definition of reluctant) the nasty habit of believing its all about me. When I come across something that pulls me out of me – i post it. (for the most part…)